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收起电脑，撤吧，让出一个好的机位，人家也是赚钱谋生，想摆脱牛马生涯，道路艰难，不容易。
下楼后，背着个电脑，想着回去太早，想到了大理床单厂艺术区，下午也许有些有趣的展览活动，去逛。古城巷子多，这一个月没在里面少走，古城大街小巷的俯视layout已在脑中，朝着感觉的方位在巷子中穿梭，路过一家店，没有昨天的廖物所这么文艺感满满，但是也很漂亮，这家店之前留意过，蛮喜欢里面的环境，还有门口这条巷子氛围好，店的斜对面是唯一一个白族风格的天主教堂，这个教堂我03年来大理时候就注意到了，一直没有特别大的名气，在当年的Lonely Planet上有介绍，很多来大理的人都不一定知道有这么一座白族建筑风格的天主教堂。
The signboard of this store says "Ideal Afternoon" in a row of small characters, "staycation, art life, coffee". In fact, it mainly sells tea.
被店面吸引，进门看看，女老板在店里布置一些东西，站在凳子上，我打了招呼说，看看你家环境，老板很客气，好啊，进来看，我转了圈说了句啥忘了，该死这记性，反正一句话，最后变成坐下聊天，她拿出糕点坚果，坐下请我喝茶，这一坐不曾想聊了2个多小时。。。
话题很广泛，从个人成长，赚钱谋生，心态和情绪管理，生活观念，人情世故，还有母子关系。这女老板，吉林延边人，71年生人，之前2009年在昆明做茶叶生意，投资400万开了两个茶会所，经营16年，我算了下也就是差不多40岁时候，投资了400万开了两个店，最后员工最高有30多个，也赚了钱，后遇到国家的一些政策，导致生意无法维系，每年成本300万往外出，出去散心三个月，回来下了决心把培养了16年的两个店关闭。
She has a son and a daughter. The daughter is very sensible, but the son is not, which makes her sad. She has two marriages. The son is from the first marriage, and the daughter is from the current marriage. The son is usually not very considerate of her. To put it simply, the current situation is that he hardly takes the initiative to contact her. But as a mother, she has tried her best to care and maintain her son. She spent 300,000 on his son's marriage and helped him buy a house in the local city. This is still very ignorant and lacks warmth.
I said, maybe he has never experienced any hardship, so he is inconsiderate, but he will understand. It’s just a matter of when. You can only pray that the day when he will understand will come earlier. On that day, when you are still alive, you two can still give this mother-child fate a perfect opportunity. After saying this, I couldn’t help but get emotional.
She nodded slightly and said, "That's right. I didn't suffer hardship when I was a child. This was the main reason. At the same time, I was a little surprised when I said this. I told my own related story like someone who had been there." It's just that the roles are reversed. My character may be her current son.
幸而女儿很懂事，03年的，今年22岁，经常主动会和她探讨和请教一些质量很高的问题，母女两还一起自驾几千公里出游，还会站在母亲的角度问母亲，你是在当时为什么会这样选择等等，知道哥和母亲关系僵，还会替母亲求她哥对母亲好一点，装一下也行，毕竟你是她第一个出生的，她很在乎你之类的话。。。还会在有去德国留学机会实习机会的时候，拿捏不定，来问她，想先看看母亲的想法，自己的想法可能考虑不成熟，她原话告诉我的。
听完之后感概，你女儿是个宝。
The female boss also said that she used to work in a small village in Yanbian, Jilin. After working, she joined the Women's Federation and did a lot of work. She was promoted to the chairman of the Women's Federation and did a lot of practical things. She was also the first to introduce crops, fruits and vegetables from Shouguang to them. After her promotion, there were gossips that she had an affair with this leader. Leg, I had an affair with that leader, and I was promoted to a higher position. There is a characteristic of small places in the Northeast. People there are very close to each other. For example, if people at two tables are eating, they don’t know each other, but as long as they start chatting about people they know, they will be connected in an instant, and everything will spread quickly and far. In the end, she felt very aggrieved (this reminded me of Zhang Yadong's heartfelt rhetorical question). She couldn't say that she couldn't stay any longer, so she resigned in 1998. Moreover, in 1996, her parents died of cancer, which also caused a big change in her mentality, and she made the decision to give up everything and leave Northeast China.
This is my senior. I resigned naked in 2003. I didn’t expect to meet someone earlier.
I left the Northeast and came to Yunnan, and started a business in Kunming. Later, after experiencing the expansion and closing of the store, I moved to Dali, opened a store like this, bought a house in Dali, and settled down.
整个谈话过程中我有时会仔细观察她，谈话儒雅，语速不紧不慢，说那些事风淡云轻，没有夸大，真的是风淡云轻。
最后再不走饭点了，赶紧收住话题，告辞。
I walked out of the alley in admiration and went to the cafeteria of Dali No. 1 Middle School. After looking around, I felt that I didn’t want to eat and I wasn’t too hungry. I wandered out again and was thinking about my next move. Suddenly someone called me, “Yeah, brother.”
I took a look and saw a little fat guy riding an electric bike. I had met him in Dali several years ago and we had been hanging out together for a while. He was more than ten years younger than me. I called him Fatty. I had seen him travel around the Middle East in my circle of friends before. It's always a surprise after not seeing each other for many years. After exchanging a few words, Xiaopang said, Brother, let's go and get in the car. I'll take you to have a few drinks. Okay, we'll talk about dinner later when we're hungry. We all went to the area next to the Three Towers, where there are a row of coffee and tea shops and restaurants along the street.
Xiaopang has matured a lot, but he is also anxious, hey.
Later, he took me to a place. When I looked at the door, it said Retirement Commune. The atmosphere inside was similar to that of a bar. There was a young girl at the door. She was about 20 years old. Is she retired now? After sitting there for a while, the people in this retirement commune were all young people in their 20s. The place where the young people brought me was full of young people, but there was still a smell of decadence in the place. Although it was helpless decadence, I left after sitting for a while, saying that I would not stay up late now. I would take a shower at 9:30 and go to bed at 10 o'clock. The elderly would be given priority to retreat.